{"id":6752,"date":"2024-12-05T06:36:54","date_gmt":"2024-12-05T11:36:54","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.jcvignoli.com\/blog\/?p=6752"},"modified":"2024-12-05T06:46:09","modified_gmt":"2024-12-05T11:46:09","slug":"non-aspettare-mai-di-dire-che-ami","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.jcvignoli.com\/blog\/2024\/non-aspettare-mai-di-dire-che-ami","title":{"rendered":"Non aspettare mai di dire che ami"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Tony n\u2019\u00e9tait pas attach\u00e9 aux belles phrases, et pourtant il aimait la beaut\u00e9. Il aimait la clart\u00e9 du verbe pour ce que l\u2019on voulait signifier avec pr\u00e9cision, sans entourloupe ni faux semblant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>C\u2019est ainsi que Salvatore a men\u00e9 sa vie&nbsp;: avec droiture et d\u00e9dain pour le mensonge. Cela lui a valu de se f\u00e2cher parfois avec ses cong\u00e9n\u00e8res, \u00e0 tort ou \u00e0 raison, car il avait la duret\u00e9 de sa tendresse, et l\u2019ouverture de sa fermet\u00e9. L\u2019inverse \u00e9tait aussi vrai.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Je suis persuad\u00e9 que ceux qui avaient compris que Tony \u00e9tait hors norme, fait de la trempe de ces hommes que l\u2019on ne rencontre que quelques fois dans sa vie si l\u2019on a beaucoup de chance, l\u2019ont aim\u00e9 de toutes leurs forces. Salvatore m\u2019a appris \u00e0 aimer sans peur. Je ne sais pas quel plus beau cadeau on pouvait me faire. On a peur d\u2019aimer. On a peur d\u2019\u00eatre soi-m\u00eame. On na\u00eet avec toutes les peurs du monde, et Tony m\u2019a enseign\u00e9 \u00e0 les balayer d\u2019un revers de la main, et \u00e0 voir la lumi\u00e8re chez chacun. La paix et l\u2019amour, il l\u2019affirmait avec force, devaient \u00eatre mes seuls objectifs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Je crains de ne pas avoir su totalement suivre son enseignement, mais je continuerai \u00e0 m\u2019y efforcer, guid\u00e9 par son exemple. L\u2019exemple \u00e9tait tout pour lui. Ne jamais lancer la pierre \u00e0 l\u2019autre, mais lui montrer au contraire comment on peut \u00e9viter d\u2019avoir \u00e0 le faire. Nous avons d\u00e9battu des nuits enti\u00e8res sur les grands initi\u00e9s, nous accordant sur le fait qu\u2019ils n\u2019avaient rien divins, mais qu\u2019ils \u00e9taient divinement instructifs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tony s\u2019en est all\u00e9 rejoindre les hommes qu\u2019il admirait, me privant de ses conseils \u00e0 jamais. C\u2019est peut-\u00eatre l\u00e0 le dernier de ses enseignements, nous rappelant que nous sommes seuls de la naissance \u00e0 la mort, et que la beaut\u00e9 de l\u2019existence n\u2019est pas dans ses mots, mais dans les rencontres qui nous relient au grand \u0153uvre.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ceux qui souffrent sont ceux qui restent, mais ton exemple te survivra, Salvatore. Tu as eu une vie o\u00f9 tu as fait de ton mieux, avec tes d\u00e9fauts et tes qualit\u00e9s, mais toujours avec force, sagesse et beaut\u00e9. Je ferai, \u00e0 mon tour, de mon mieux. Car tu m\u2019as enseign\u00e9 comment \u00eatre un homme \u00e0 la gloire du Grand Architecte de l\u2019Univers.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Merci pour ce si bref et si long chemin partag\u00e9. Tu feras partie de mon \u00eatre jusqu\u2019\u00e0 ce que l\u2019obscurit\u00e9, \u00e0 mon tour, m\u2019enveloppe.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Si j\u2019avais eu plus de temps, Tony, j\u2019aurais lu un pan\u00e9gyrique plus court, comme tu l\u2019aurais aim\u00e9. Mais aujourd\u2019hui je suis seul \u00e0 bord, et il va me falloir faire face \u00e0 mes contradictions seul, car je doute de ne jamais trouver un homme d\u2019une telle dignit\u00e9, \u00e0 la personnalit\u00e9 aussi \u00e9blouissante qu\u2019\u00e9reintante. Nous sommes orphelins aujourd\u2019hui, mais parents d\u2019une multitudes \u00e0 inspirer, \u00e0 notre tour. Tu dois te rire de l\u2019ampleur de la t\u00e2che. Tu n\u2019as d\u00e9cid\u00e9ment jamais rien pris au s\u00e9rieux, bien que tu aies \u00e9t\u00e9 l\u2019homme le plus responsable que je n\u2019aie jamais rencontr\u00e9.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"768\" src=\"https:\/\/www.jcvignoli.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/tony-1024x768.jpg\" alt=\"Salvatore Callea\" class=\"wp-image-6755\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.jcvignoli.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/tony-1024x768.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/www.jcvignoli.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/tony-600x450.jpg 600w, https:\/\/www.jcvignoli.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/tony-768x576.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.jcvignoli.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/tony-1536x1152.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/www.jcvignoli.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/tony-2048x1536.jpg 2048w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/figure>\n<div class=\"pld-like-dislike-wrap pld-template-1\">\r\n    <div class=\"pld-like-wrap  pld-common-wrap\">\r\n    <a href=\"javascript:void(0)\" class=\"pld-like-trigger pld-like-dislike-trigger  \" title=\"Super article!\" data-post-id=\"6752\" data-trigger-type=\"like\" data-restriction=\"cookie\" data-already-liked=\"0\">\r\n                        <i class=\"fas fa-thumbs-up\"><\/i>\r\n                <\/a>\r\n    <span class=\"pld-like-count-wrap pld-count-wrap\">0    <\/span>\r\n<\/div><div class=\"pld-dislike-wrap  pld-common-wrap\">\r\n    <a href=\"javascript:void(0)\" class=\"pld-dislike-trigger pld-like-dislike-trigger  \" title=\"Pas terrible...\" data-post-id=\"6752\" data-trigger-type=\"dislike\" data-restriction=\"cookie\" data-already-liked=\"0\">\r\n                        <i class=\"fas fa-thumbs-down\"><\/i>\r\n                <\/a>\r\n    <span class=\"pld-dislike-count-wrap pld-count-wrap\">0<\/span>\r\n<\/div><\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Tony n\u2019\u00e9tait pas attach\u00e9 aux belles phrases, et pourtant il aimait la beaut\u00e9. 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